Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia cause plenty of frustration. When your mom doesn't have short-term memory retention, it's very hard to help her adjust to a caregiver. From day to day, the people she meets are strangers.
Over time, she may start to recognize the people she sees daily. But, many will remain strangers. How can you help her adjust when she can't remember people she's met before?
-Explain the Issue to Caregivers and Others
Before the person enters your mom's home, explain the situation to them. Make sure they're aware your mom has a problem remembering faces and names. If they're prepared, they'll be ready to act like it's the first meeting.
-Prepare Your Mom
Explain to your mom who is coming and why. Don't do it hours in advance as it won't stick. Wait until the caregiver's car pulls into the driveway. Go over what the person is there to do. Put emphasis on the fact that your mom has a helper and that the caregiver is not there to babysit or boss her around.
-Keep a Dry Erase Board
In large print, write daily notes on dry erase board that your mom can read. Keep phrases short. Tell her who is coming that day and why. She can read and reread it to help refresh her memory. It's also a good way to put reminders regarding the weather and how she should dress and remembering to feed pets.
-Make Yourself Available for the First Week or Two
While your mom adjusts to the caregiver for the first week or two, stick around. Set up an office in your mom's home. Work from that office, if possible, and let the caregiver and your mom adjust to each other. If there are questions or problems, you're available to resolve them on the spot.
When agitation is heightened, it may help to take your mom for a walk and let the caregiver get something else done. If the laundry is on the list, take your mom for a walk and the caregiver can move to sort and wash clothes. After a walk, your mom will have forgotten what frustrated her.
Look for Caregivers With Specific Experience
When you call an agency, request caregivers who have experience with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia. Personal experience with the disease goes a long way to knowing how to say and do things without agitating the patient. Call now to discuss prices and services.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering hiring a Caregiver in Santa Monica, CA, please call Mom's Home Care and talk to our friendly, knowledgeable staff. Our number is 323-244-4789
